No room for mean girls here {link-up post}

Mean girls = mean women? Why are we mean to each other? Is it a learned behavior? I think it probably is and I think it’s getting worse. I came across a new blog last week and the post was about mean girls. The author, Michelle, was trying to make a point to say we needed to change this behavior, change the patterns and try to just be nice to each other. It doesn’t mean you have to be BFF’s with every girl out there, it just means you don’t seek out ways to be mean.

Man is it hard, it’s so hard and I have to constantly stop myself from saying something about someone, especially in front of my daughter. Why is that? Well, it makes us feel better. If they were mean to us, we’re justified, right? Wrong.

I definitely did not win any popularity contests in school. I was not the prettiest or the smartest. In fact I was picked on for being skinny. Who does that? I wore glasses and braces, had the curliest hair in the entire world (I still have that curly hair!) Thing is, we girls, will find anything to pick on each other about. Anything to make ourselves feel better. I’m sure there was someone I picked on or talked about when they weren’t around. It probably made me feel better, at least for a little while.

Now that I have a daughter it frightens me to think she is or would be picked on or bullied. Technology gives kids a whole new way to be mean. I read an article a friend posted on Facebook a few weeks ago about how kids are finding and rating their self worth based on “likes” on Instagram. The article is here. I’ve already seen exactly what the author is referring to on my daughter and her friends Instagram account. (Yes, she has Instagram, we can talk about that another day!)

I don’t want my daughter to find her self worth based on the number of  ”likes” on Instagram, or by being a mean girl. So, how do we stop it?

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Michelle writes she’s not sure if  ”empowering other women was something specifically placed on her heart”. I’m not sure either, but that’s what I’m trying to do with this blog ~ to encourage, empower, lift up! But it’s easy from my keyboard to be that woman. It’s not so easy in real life.

So now she has this link up in the blogging world to raise awareness and start a new trend. Even if you aren’t a blogger you can change this pattern, you can teach your daughters, nieces, grand daughters and friends that being that mean girl is no way to live. Choose to surround yourself with women that are supportive, inspirational, that don’t tear other women down to feel better.

You can see Michelle’s post here, with the original link up and other bloggers’ take on the subject.

Hope you all have a great week!

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She speaks with wisdom and teaches others to be loving and kind. Proverbs 31:26

 

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14 comments to No room for mean girls here {link-up post}

  1. MS_AimeeC says:

    Thanks for sharing, Sarah! This is a topic that’s really been on my heart recently.

    • howmyworldruns says:

      Thanks for reading Aimee! It’s something I’ve thought about, but didn’t have the guts to write about until Michelle’s post. Feel free to write your own thoughts and link up to hers.

  2. Thanks for sharing! I just had a conversation with my husband yesterday about this. I’m going to do everything possible to make sure my daughter is not one of them! I can’t really protect her from others but at least I can make one less mean girl in this world!

  3. Alicia says:

    This is a great topic, and something that is covered pretty heavily when it comes to body image issues and the media. Most often, its women who are the worst at making other feel women that their worth is only as good as their outer appearance! And part of the way to start eliminating this trend is to have women empower other women. As you pointed out, its not as easy as it sounds. This is a psychological/social topic that would be super fascinating to explore more!

    I don’t think protection is the right answer, but teaching empowerment and compassion… and how to pass that on is what will hopefully make bullying/body images/etc a non-issue someday.

    • Amy says:

      I agree with you, Alicia. It’s all about teaching girls (and all people, really) compassion – how to consider another person’s feelings. Great topic, Sarah.

  4. I agree that we as women need too learn to be more supportive and it is a learned behavior. I am worried about my daughter being bullied for having red curly hair. We spend a lot of time boosting her self esteem now. She is gorgeous. I just remember how mean kids could be in school to others who were different. I love your curly hair by the way!!!

  5. Jen says:

    I agree! As a woman and mom to a daughter I worry about this. I wonder how much worse this will be for kids now, we had the mean girls but it was all in person and not internet based. We need to teach our daughters how to respect each other and be strong :)

    • howmyworldruns says:

      Jen, we only had to worry about the kids that actually heard it, now it can be blasted all over the internet. I guess “responsible use of social media” should be added to the topics we teach our kids as well.

  6. Jennifer says:

    Glad you shared and that we both linked up! The change has to start somewhere…. so it might as well start with us! :)

  7. I’m so glad you shared your thoughts. It really doesn’t matter what you look like there is someone who will find ‘fault’. Ugh. I was 13 and 5’8 (which 18 years ago was NOT normal) with a C cup bra. It was humiliating and most of the girls were not nice about it. Now, I can’t even begin to tell you the humiliation that goes on due to technology (Instagram is the worst; Twitter is 2nd – at least in my daughter’s HS) – it breaks my heart and makes me ill at the same time.

    Thank you so much for joining in something that I really hope takes off!

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